Recently, my wife received a telephone call that stunned and upset her. Beyond those emotions, it also created a huge dose of reality that has yet to even fully set in. A dear friend of our family and someone close to us in age, which is not old by any stretch, has been diagnosed with a very advanced form of cancer. The prognosis is not good, but as believers we are trusting God for a miracle. Our friend is a believer, a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, and a friend to many. She is very special to us. This news caused me to think and wonder about something I have often considered.
What do you say? What do you do?
I get it. We are not the only folks to feel this way. I have been a pastor and a law enforcement Chaplain for several years. I have faced tough times both in regards to life and death, mental and physical health and well being. However, this is not something that is taught in seminaries and or theological institutions across the nation today. It should be, but doing so would take away from the great debates of theology rather than equipping pastors, teachers, and religious leaders with valuable information to serve others. Sorry, I digress.
Many of you reading this have experienced a telephone call or situation as I have described at a much younger age or in a much more personally devastating situation. The questions still remain. What do you say? What do you do?
Many of you have encountered the loss of a partner, a fellow officer, a unit or platoon member, or shipmate. Some of you reading this may have lost a spouse or even a child in the line of duty. I cannot begin to know exactly how you feel or what you are suffering, even though I have on many occasions walked through this personal hell with others. I have rarely traversed this path on a more personal level, and quite selfishly I hope I do not. However, as with all of us, the odds are not in my favor. Regardless, the questions still remain. What do you say? What do you do?
I wish I had the magic answers that we all desire and that we all wish we had, but alas I do not. I do think that there is something that we all can do in these very trying times of life. Personally, I believe being present and engaged is the most important thing that we can be for others. No matter the situation, our presence, not hovering or forcing ourselves upon the hurting, is the best thing we can do and the best we can be.
I have on many occasions stood silently in the corner of a hospital room, simply praying for God’s will to be done and his strength to fall upon the family and friends no matter the result. The result many times was the death of their loved one and other times it was a recovery. In other situations, the less-life-harrowing variety, I have sat silently as a spouse has breathed their hurts aloud for the first time to relieve some immeasurable pain that no one else could safely hear.
No matter the hurts or pain, I believe that we are all equipped to serve others with our presence. The hurting, often, do not even realize that you are there, ever, but it is an incredible gift to them in their time of need. Perhaps the answer to the questions is to be silent and be still and know that he is God. If you believe, please help pray for our friend Lisa; God knows her by name. If you do not believe, will you please have thoughts of hope and peace for her? I will be praying for you all.
God Bless You and God Bless America.
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Those are just a few things that could generally describe Bergen Mease. However, more importantly he is a Believer in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. He is a patriot of the United States of America that comes from a US Navy family. He lives with his wife and children, whom they are raising with conservative leanings. He served as a law enforcement officer and more recently as a law enforcement and emergency services Chaplain. His mission is to write about topics that will make everyone think about how they treat others both personally and professionally.