Let’s just start this one out strong. “Did you ever kill anybody?” Really? Why is this still even a thing? First of all, this is just outright rude and inventive and second, you could really trigger a veteran. So many vets deal with accepting and letting go of the fact that they had to take another life. Sure, depending on the job, you either selected or got assigned (depending on your branch) you had a different chance of seeing combat. Still, you could send someone right back into a spiral downfall they just got over. Do you really want that on your conscience? Then again if you are asking you don’t have one just laying around. Is there a way to make this question illegal?
“What was it like to kill someone?” Logically the next question, if you can ask this you sure are lucky to not have gotten knocked out for asking if a vet has killed someone. Just as egregious as even asking if life was taken. This question can sometimes come up first but it is usually by someone anti-military but that is a story for another time.
The next is not necessarily bad, but asking what job we had could open up one of two can of worms. One where we never shut up and tell you literally everything we did during on a day to day basis down to the second and another where a slew of hatred ensues because we chose something or were assigned something that was totally not what we were thinking it would be.
“What was it like?” Not a bad question to ask – just one you want to really think about. You will either get why it is so amazing to be in the service or you will hear about all the shortcomings and mistakes. Really though most of the time this one ends up being a coaching session depending on if you are asking because you want to join. Either persuading you not to join or to join.
Before asking a veteran any question, just ask YOURSELF one question — How would you feel if someone asked you these questions? This could be the difference to whether you live or die, or leave the conversation pulling your hair out because we didn’t ever shut up.
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