Becoming a military spouse is a serious challenge. Whether your husband or wife, girlfriend or boyfriend is in the military, it will be unlike any relationship you’ve had before. Being with a soldier can be truly exciting and loving, but it can be an incredibly lonely experience, too. It is frustrating having no one to talk to, because your friends don’t understand what you’re going through. It can be daunting to have to say goodbye to your friends and family and relocate, to start a whole new life somewhere you’ve never been before and where you don’t know anyone. However, there are a few things you can do to help you settle in and meet people! Soldiers, hand this over to your partners. Spouses: keep on reading…
There is no kind of support that’s quite like that of another military spouse. If you can, get in touch with the morale, welfare and recreation team (MWR) to see if they can put you in touch with other people in the same position as you. The program has loads of activities and events to get involved in, so try and take advantage of this. You could also go along to some of your soldier’s functions; you’ll be meeting new people who you can call on if need be. You never know where these introductions may lead!
If the thought of this is intimidating, ask your soldier to invite a few of his or her new colleagues over for a meal or a party, along with their spouses. This is a great way for both of you to get better acquainted with people in the comfort and security of your own home.
If you have children, why not use them to help you meet people? As your kids make new friends at school and clubs, ask to meet their parents – your children will instantly give you a talking point as you’ll have something in common! If you have a dog, you can use it in exactly the same way! Whether these are military or civilian families, they will still be great for building your support network as you start your new lives.
Join the Club
Last but not least, find out if there are any clubs or groups which you can join in your area. No matter what your interest or hobby, there will be something near you for you to get involved in. This is a sensible idea, but you’re probably thinking that you have too much on your plate at the moment and that this can wait. However, this is important! This isn’t just a chance for you to meet new people, but it will prove to be an invaluable distraction for when your soldier is away. Keeping busy is crucial when you’re on your own, especially when you’re far away from your family, so a club or activity will be your lifeline.
To reiterate, this will probably be the biggest challenge of your life! Nobody said taking on the military way of life was going to be easy. However, you don’t have to go it alone. There are countless people who are waiting and willing to support you – now it’s up to you to get out there and meet them!