(This is part two in the Chaplain’s Class series. Read all of the posts here.)
In this session of Chaplain’s Class, I will outline some guiding principles and procedures for performing a death notification. If you remember from my previous article, everyone in every circumstance deserves at the very least the dignity of receiving the worst possible news with compassion.
When you receive, or you are assigned, the unenviable task of making a death notification, you must be prepared to face the situation head-on. All too often in a smaller jurisdiction, the officer may actually know the deceased and or the family of the deceased. This reality obviously increases the difficulty of the mission.
In the current world of modern technology, and especially with social media, all too often a family member will learn of the loss of a loved one even before an officer might be dispatched. However, that obviously is neither a certainty nor an excuse to delay or even deny the issuance of a death notification. My encouragement will always be to accept this directive as an important and very time-sensitive responsibility just as you would any other assignment.
When the assignment comes, a good first step is to partner-up with a chaplain, another officer, the medical examiner, or if possible the pastor or clergy-person of the family you are about to encounter. (Please note that extreme caution should be exercised when using a civilian as your partner under these circumstances, especially a civilian that is unfamiliar to you.) The notification team should investigate and make every effort to ensure that the notification is made to the correct person(s). Most everyone may assume making certain you are telling the right people comes automatically, but you would be surprised at how often an erroneous notification occurs. An erroneous notification can wipe out all of the compassion and goodwill you are hoping to establish during this process.
Prior to departure to make the death notification, the team should, at the very least, have an informal briefing to discuss and clarify the necessary information to be shared with the deceased’s family. For example, if the death occurred due to a criminal act, there are obviously facts concerning evidence, timelines, etc. that will be off-limits during the conversation, even if asked by a family member. Under other circumstances, the family member does not necessarily need the gruesome details at an initial time of notification. The family will in no doubt seek every detail, but the details can be revealed over time and not dumped upon them all at once. The news itself is horrible enough without the added baggage of details. Simply stating what is to be said and not said, before arriving at the front door to a home, will ensure that privileged information remains privileged. All of these considerations are in fact acts of compassion.
Following the briefing and clarification of information, the notification team should drive separately to the location at which the notification will be made.
In our next session, we will address what happens when you knock on the door.
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